Welcome to the last day of the second part of the one year and beyond series. Thank you for following along as I've talked about parenting my toddler. I've learned a lot from all of the moms who have posted and have enjoyed connecting with many as well. I am looking forward to seeing this series continued.
The topic today is how you feel confident as a mom.
I love this topic and cannot wait to read what all of the mamas have to say about it.
Confidence for me as a mom came with time.
In the beginning I wondered if I was doing things right. All the time.
I called my mom and bests daily asking so many questions.
I trusted their advice and knew they would never judge me.
And even two years in, I still have many moments of self doubt. Many.
The other night I was talking with a friend who is a new mom. She made a comment about thinking everyone else had it figured out and I laughed. I don't think anyone has this parenting thing figured out. It's a day by day learning curve for me personally and I think most mamas can agree. I told her you just need to do your best, learn alongside your child and let go of the preconceived notions of how you think it should or would be.
Here are some other words of advice I think are important for all moms to remember:
Tips for feeling confident as a mom...
Have a strong support system. Have people you can go to when you need honest advice. When you had a rough day and need a shoulder to lean on. Or when you need a break and they can help. Know who your people are and use them! You don't have to do it alone. It's amazing what a good talk from a friend can do.
Go with your gut feeling. I learned this from the beginning with AG. We went to the dr multiple times for her dairy allergy symptoms only for them to tell me it was nothing. I was persistent and stuck with it. I didn't give up and after seeing a specialist, the allergy was confirmed. I went with my gut feeling and knew it wasn't something to push to the side. On the other hand, I was also told she had colic at 3 days old. I didn't think that was it. Turned out she wasn't eating enough and was just hungry. By day 5 I no longer had a fussy "colicky" baby thanks to her eating more from a bottle while my supply settled.
Don't listen to what everyone else has to say. While sometimes others can be helpful, more times than not they can overwhelm you with unsolicited advice and cause self doubt. Utilize your support system in times of need.
Understand that all kids are different. What may work for one, may not work for yours. Don't get down when you try something new and it doesn't work. Or if your child isn't learning as fast as other kids. Realize that all kids are different and on their own path. Just be supportive, attentive and present. Things will come with time and you'll figure it out together.
Do the best with what you have. Some days you may conquer the world. Others you may feel like you're drowning. Welcome to motherhood. =-)
There is no such thing as perfection. Let go of what you see on IG and Pinterest of what other moms are doing. Remember, most of the time you're seeing their highlight reel.
What tips do you have for feeling confident as a mom?
How do you feel confident as a mom? Check out the other mama's blogs for even more on this! And be sure to link up with us below if you also have a post on this.
July 10: Keeping your marriage alive with a toddler
July 17: Favorite summer toddler activities
July 24: Helping Your Toddler to Communicate (Words, emotions, etc.)
July 31: Dealing with Separation Anxiety
Aug 7: Car Trip Necessities
Aug 14: Deciding when the time is right for baby #2 (and/or how to handle these questions)
Aug 21: Tricks for eating out with your toddler
Aug 28: Feeling confident as a mom (How to feel this way, Your struggle with, etc.)